Spiritual Wedlock

June 14, 2001

Behold, I have given him for a witness to the people, a leader and commander to the people. Behold, thou shalt call a nation that thou knowest not, and nations that knew not thee shall run unto thee because of the Lord thy God, and for the Holy One of Israel; for he hath glorified thee.

Isaiah

Our topic refers to the marginal heading for the last paragraph on page 574 of Science and Health. As the meeting closed last week we were working with this page in relation to AIDS and shifts in Gay sexuality. Spiritual wedlock looked like a solid archetypal rock to build on and support the changes taking place.

A member who keeps in touch with the group by telephone provided a snap shot of early post-Stonewall (1969) sexuality. As civilization moved into late patriarchy at mid century other aggrieved groups like African Americans and women had thrown off the shackles of second class citizenship. It was natural that Gay people would seek the same liberation and their gathering political clout was accompanied by an explosion out of sexually repressive closets. What had before been furtive quickies became proudly proclaimed sexual freedom. It turned into a communal or tribal frenzy. Innocence and naiveté prevailed and one tended to overlook the potential for addiction and the appearance, finally, of exotic diseases.

As the problems became unavoidable, ways of recovery — including Christian Science — were found. Dating and relationships became important. A sense of family, beyond writhing bodies on a dance floor or in a bathhouse, seized the imagination. Today, Gay sexuality has all the potential for good and evil that any other sexuality includes — it has taken its place in the rich panorama of human relating. For the student of Christian Science the whole process can be read through the lens of Revelation xxi: 9, on which Mary Baker Eddy has lavished so much loving attention in Science and Health, page 574.

We discerned three levels of wedlock in the writings of Mrs. Eddy; they are shown in our readings.

1) The relationship between two people. The chapter on "Marriage" in Science and Health and the article "Wedlock" in Miscellaneous Writings include much practical advice as well as deeper insights.

2) Each person's inner balance between his male and female natures. The quotes from pages 64 and 249 of the Textbook and 268 of Miscellany show this aspect. There is also a detailed treatment on page 73 of the so called Blue Book, showing Mrs. Eddy working to balance her male-femaleness. It starts, "This is my support, that the male and female natures are equally expressed, coexistent in me."

3) The oneness of God and man. The quotes from the Textbook, pages 561 and 574, are accompanied by the marginal notes, respectively, "Espousals supernal," and, of course, "Spiritual wedlock".

The work in Christian Science, we felt, is to see and live all three levels at the same time in any relationship. Here are some statements made by members: "Lover and beloved are identity for preexistent oneness." "Relationships are noumenal and phenomenal." And this, quoted from Margaret Laird, "Relationship is an unfolding idea, showing the infinitude of my being. It may appear as people relating, but it's always my infinitude."

We then explored some scriptural points.

1) The passage from Matthew 19 was read. One member has long regarded it as Jesus' teaching on the rightness of Gay sexuality. His investigations have shown that the word translated here as "eunuch" is actually a reference to one's suitability for marriage. Thus the New English Bible says "...Some are incapable of marriage because they were born so.." Another member suddenly saw the light and interjected, "Why of course, that would certainly include what we now call the genetic predisposition to Gay sexuality." Not wanting to leave this wonderful insight resting on the sands of human belief alone, another quickly under girded it with the spiritual fact that we come from divine Genetics, the oneness and wholeness of being. That too would include being Gay — in spades!

2) The Lamb symbol appearing in many of our readings got one member excited. He went through most of the references to the Lamb in the Bible and Mrs. Eddy's writings and offered some comments. It appears mainly sacrificially as an animal and as Jesus, until we reach Revelation. Then it seems to become a stand-in for men or mankind. There is some confusion, perhaps with the translators or, he admitted, maybe his own inability to understand ancient symbols. Turning to Mrs. Eddy, he looked up "Lamb of God" and "Sheep" in the "Glossary" of Science and Health and found this: "The spiritual idea of Love; self-immolation; innocence and purity; sacrifice," and, "Innocence; inoffensiveness; those who follow their leader." From all this he concluded, tentatively, that the important point was the need to keep our egos soft, pliable, permeable and in alignment with God, whether called Ego, Shepherd, Lord or whatever. Another member jumped in to say a healer he used to go to often recommended he repeat the 23rd Psalm because it places us in the role of a sheep right from the start, looking to God for guidance and well-being. Interestingly it is with this psalm that Mrs. Eddy concludes the body of Science and Health, substituting the words "Divine Love" for "The Lord". In summary our member offered this: "In our powerlessness as mortals, we reflect the all-power of divinity."

We had some healings.

1) The member who launched a personal attack on our chairperson a few weeks back retuned and apologized. He received the gift of Textbooks from another member. The person chairing at this meeting was the same one who was driven from the room before.

2) Another member, continuing her search in Christian Science for the great comfort that comes from good parenting, has been finding that doing the daily Lesson gives her a far steadier feeling than she imagines any earthly ancestor might have left her with.

3) Another member cut his leg badly in a subway accident. By looking away from the problem and staying with persistent prayer he has been able to proceed with a busy schedule and now finds most evidence of the wound has faded away.

We had to fish a bit for a topic this week. We'll certainly be mindful of Gay Pride week starting next Monday, but decided in view of the McVeigh execution we particularly wanted to look at Redemption.

The Bible

And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.

And Jesus answering said unto them, The children of this world marry, and are given in marriage: But they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain that world, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage: Neither can they die any more: for they are equal unto the angels; and are the children of God, being the children of the resurrection. Now that the dead are raised, even Moses shewed at the bush, when he calleth the Lord the God of Abraham, and the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob. For he is not a God of the dead, but of the living: for all live unto him.

Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures, by Mary Baker Eddy

Let the "male and female" of God's creating appear. Let us feel the divine energy of Spirit, bringing us into newness of life and recognizing no mortal nor material power as able to destroy. Let us rejoice that we are subject to the divine "powers that be."

Marriage is the legal and moral provision for generation among human kind. Until the spiritual creation is discerned intact, is apprehended and understood, and His kingdom is come as in the vision of the Apocalypse, — where the corporeal sense of creation was cast out, and its spiritual sense was revealed from heaven, — marriage will continue, subject to such moral regulations as will secure increasing virtue.

Marriage should signify a union of hearts. Furthermore, the time cometh of which Jesus spake, when he declared that in the resurrection there should be no more marrying nor giving in marriage, but man would be as the angels. Then shall Soul rejoice in its own, in which passion has no part. Then white-robed purity will unite in one person masculine wisdom and feminine love, spiritual understanding and perpetual peace.

The Revelator beheld the spiritual idea from the mount of vision. Purity was the symbol of Life and Love. The Revelator saw also the spiritual ideal as a woman clothed in light, a bride coming down from heaven, wedded to the Lamb of Love. To John, "the bride" and "the Lamb" represented the correlation of divine Principle and spiritual idea, God and His Christ, bringing harmony to earth.

Think of this, dear reader, for it will lift the sackcloth from your eyes, and you will behold the soft-winged dove descending upon you. The very circumstance, which your suffering sense deems wrathful and afflictive, Love can make an angel entertained unawares. Then thought gently whispers: "Come hither! Arise from your false consciousness into the true sense of Love, and behold the Lamb's wife,—Love wedded to its own spiritual idea." Then cometh the marriage feast, for this revelation will destroy forever the physical plagues imposed by material sense.

Miscellaneous Writings, by Mary Baker Eddy

Great mischief comes from attempts to steady other people's altars, venturing on valor without discretion, which is virtually meddlesomeness. Even your sincere and courageous convictions regarding what is best for others may be mistaken; you must be demonstratively right yourself, and work out the greatest good to the greatest number, before you are sure of being a fit counsellor. Positive and imperative thoughts should be dropped into the balances of God and weighed by spiritual Love, and not be found wanting, before being put into action. A rash conclusion that regards only one side of a question, is weak and wicked; this error works out the results of error. If the premise of mortal existence is wrong, any conclusion drawn therefrom is not absolutely right. Wisdom in human action begins with what is nearest right under the circumstances, and thence achieves the absolute.

Is marriage nearer right than celibacy?

Human knowledge inculcates that it is, while Science indicates that it is not. But to force the consciousness of scientific being before it is understood is impossible, and believing otherwise would prevent scientific demonstration.

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